We shall continue with the
study of the Book of Genesis this week.
(1) Why did Jacob see the need to get up at night and send his family and all his possessions over to the other side of Jabbok?
(2) Why would he choose to stay behind all by himself that night?
(3) Read carefully the passage again, and see whom Jacob regarded this man to be and why?
a. Why would he wrestle with the man?
b. Why would he wrestle with the man for the whole night?
c. Why would he not let the man go unless he was blessed by him?
d. By asking for blessing, whom did he regard the person to be?
(4) Since Jacob said, “I saw God face to face”, he recognized the person as God Himself:
a. Why couldn’t “the man” overpower him in the first place?
b. And yet, all He had to do was to touch his hip. Why did He not do it earlier?
c. Who, at the end was the one who overpowered the other?
d. Why then did God say that Jacob has overcome both God and men?
e. Many have regarded his experience a vivid analogy of prayer. If so, what you can learn about prayer from his experience?
(5) The changing of his name from Jacob to Israel:
a. Jacob means “heel” (i.e. always the follower, playing 2nd fiddle) and implies being a grasper or deceiver while Israel means “he struggles with God”. What does this name change signify?
b. God further comments that Jacob has overcome. Did he not lose in his struggle? How would you define the meaning of “overcome”?
c. “To truly overcome is to be totally overcome.” How would you respond to this statement?
(6) How did the entire experience prepare him to face Esau and the rest of his life?
(7) What kind of a reminder would the limping be to Jacob for the rest of his life?
(8) What is the main message to you today and how can you apply it to your life?
The name of Jacob means “heel” because when he was born, he came out after his brother, “with his hand grasping Esau’s heel” (Gen. 25:26).
Ever since his birth, it seems that he lived up to the meaning of this name. He always played second fiddle. His father loved his brother more than him. When it came to being reckoned as a useful man, people within and without the family would naturally look to Esau and not Jacob who could neither hunt nor cook as well as his brother. And when he fled to become the son-in-law of Laban, he could not even play second fiddle. He did not even belong. He did not count. He was a quiet person, but he was not a passive individual who would simply turn the other cheek. Far from being a push-over, he was smart and aggressive. He seized the opportunity to deceive his brother of his birthright; he stole his brother’s blessing from his father (though the plan appeared to be pushed by his mother); he patiently waited to seek his revenge on his father-in-law; and even worse, he took advantage of the jealousy of his wives and became the husband of four wives. Yes, he struggled with men all his life and it appears that he eventually won all the time — that is, until he had to face his brother and his 400 men.
A.B. Simpson was right: In our road to sanctification, especially in learning to consciously and deliberately yield our life to God, we often need a crisis experience.
Jacob never had to learn to trust in God while he was at home. He saw how Isaac feared God, but at the same time, he saw how Isaac played favorites. He had no real encounter with the Living God until he had to run for his life and embark on a totally uncertain future. Even as God appeared to him at Bethel, he continued to depend on himself, his smartness, and his deception to struggle with men. But now, facing the possible revenge of his brother and sensing that he and his wives and children could all be put to death, he was “in great fear and distress.” Yet, he still used his wisdom to appease his brother with lavish gifts. He even divided his family into groups so that some of them might be able to survive in case Esau chose to attack them. But all this planning did not give him peace. And in great fear (perhaps more so for his family than for himself), he remained alone at night, and did not cross the river with them.
While the Bible describes what followed next without ever once using the word “prayer”, it was in essence the most vigorous prayer ever described in the Bible, next to the prayer of our Lord Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane.
He met God that night. How do we know that he knew it was God? Because he asked for blessing and he subsequently said that he met God face-to-face.
Yes, God came to him in the most critical moment of his life. Once he recognized that it was God, he wrestled with Him with all his might, throughout the night, and he would not let Him go. God is obviously stronger than him, much stronger, but He did not touch his socket until daybreak.
The longer Jacob struggled with God, the more he was expressing his own inability to face his own crisis. If he gave up earlier, he would be expressing his desire not to need God any more, but to resort back to depending on his own wisdom. In a sense, his struggle with God is not unlike that of Jesus in the Garden ― it was a process of submission. The longer he struggled with God, the more he was letting go of his self-dependence.
The touching of the socket was God’s way to let him know He could stop his struggle. He has overcome. From now on, he did not need to grasp and struggle with men, because he had overcome himself. All he had to do from now on was to continue to grasp a hold of God (the meaning of his new name, Israel) and he would be a true overcomer.
Perhaps, it is fitting to say that to truly overcome is to be totally overcome by God.
(1) After his spiritual encounter with God, what would you expect Jacob to do in preparing to meet with his brother?
(2) What did he actually do in vv. 1-3?
(3) Why did he put Rachel and Joseph in the rear?
(4) What had Jacob learned from his encounter with God the night before?
(5) What did Esau do when he met Jacob? What does this say about Esau? Who was more righteous?
(6) How did Esau address Jacob? How did Jacob address Esau? What might we learn from their addresses in bringing about genuine reconciliation?
(7) In commenting on the “gift” (v. 11) that Jacob insisted Esau to receive, Waltke remarks that, “the Hebrew is the same word for the ‘blessing’ in 27:35-36 which Jacob had originally stolen.” How important then was it for Esau to accept the “gift”?
(8) Why did Esau desire to leave some of his men with Jacob? Why did Jacob decline?
a. Did Jacob head to Seir (the subsequent traditional homeland of the Edomites), where Esau was?
b. Why not?
(9) Where did he decide to “settle”? What did he do that showed his desire to “settle”?
(10) Why did he not go back to Bethel or Beersheba where he originally came from?
(11) What was the spiritual significance of the naming of this altar as “El-Elohe-Israel” (i.e. “God, the God of Israel”)? (See 35:2)
(12) What is the main message to you today and how can you apply it to your life?
There is no doubt that his experience at Jabbok was a significant turning point in his life, especially in his relationship with God. Chapter 33 of Genesis ends with him setting up an altar and calling it “El-Elohe-Israel”; it was a public declaration that he and his family would only worship this God, not just any God, but the God of Israel. In a way, this sealed the worship of Yahweh for the people of Israel for the rest of their history and set monotheism in stone for his people.
However, his learning to truly and totally trust in God in everything was still in process. Fresh from his dramatic experience in Jabbok, with full assurance from God and a significant blessing anchored by the change of his name, he began the next morning facing the crisis immediately. As much as he succeeded in his prayer-struggle, the situation had not changed a bit, although his spirit did. But while the spirit was willing, the flesh was weak. He immediately went back to depending on his own self.
The sad thing, perhaps, was not that he went back on depending on himself, but how he did it. The way he divided his family clearly reveals where his heart was. Should Esau choose to attack, he would die first, then the concubines, then Leah, and hopefully by then Rachel and Joseph could escape, because they were put in the rear of the procession!
If I were Reuben, Simeon or Levi, I knew then exactly how much my father loved me! No wonder they hated Joseph!
But the warm embrace of Esau must have put Jacob to tears, if not shame!
As much as Esau acted far more righteously than Jacob, Jacob did learn a very important lesson and that was God does answer prayers. He can totally be trusted. So, fittingly, this part of his story ends with the erection of an altar to God and with him calling God, the God of Israel! His faith had finally grown!
(1) What kind of sin did Shechem commit? When he tried to negotiate the marrying of Dinah, where was she? (34:26)
(2) What was Dinah doing when she caught the eyes of Shechem? Was associating with the Canaanites a prudent thing? (Of course, one should never put the blame on the victim, especially in the case of rape.)
(3) Was the “grief and fury” of her brothers justified?
(4) In trying to appease the wrath of Jacob’s family, what did Hamor propose?
a. Was he being fair?
b. Why was it not acceptable from a spiritual perspective?
(5) The sons of Jacob devised a very clever scheme to seek revenge:
a. Was revenge, in this case, wrong?
b. Why or why not?
(6) What would you have done?
(7) What should they have done? (Consult Deut. 22:28, even though the Law of Moses had yet to be written in Jacob’s time.)
(8) How did Jacob rebuke his two sons? Was his rebuke proper? Why or why not?
(9) What was Simeon and Levi’s reply? How did they see their action?
(10) What have you learned about the biblical view on the sin of rape? Do you whole-heartedly agree? Why or why not?
(11) What is the main message to you today and how can you apply it to your life?
People
in the Ancient Near East rightfully took rape very seriously! Even the Bible
prescribes capital punishment under certain conditions (Deut. 22:25-28).
However, only the one guilty of the crime was to be punished.
But
the sons of Jacob went far beyond this, and murdered the men of the entire
city. In other words, they murdered the innocent.
But, when Jacob knew about their crime, this was how he confronted them: “You have brought trouble on me by making me a stench to the Canaanites and Perizzites…” (Gen. 34:30). He did not rebuke them because what they did was morally wrong; he only chastised them because of the trouble they had caused him. And, he certainly did not worry about how God might look upon the sin of his children.
As bad as Eli was, he rebuked his sons with these words, “If a man sins against the Lord, who will intercede for him?” (1 Sam. 2:25).
How did the sons of Jacob, (in this case, Simeon and Levi) become such violent murderers? No doubt, they had been greatly influenced by the Canaanite culture in which they lived, because we know both their father and their grandfather were not violent men. They did not learn at home. But, they received no moral direction or teaching either from their father. His silence on such an important crime only served to fan the flame of immorality within his family, culminating with Reuben, his oldest son, who committed adultery with Jacob's concubine. But Jacob continued his silence (35:22).
Eventually their sin escalated to the attempted murder of their brother, Joseph who ended up being sold as slave by them to Egypt—all because of Jacob’s guilty silence.
Being quiet could be a virtue, and the prophet Ezekiel might also be a quiet person like Jacob, but this is what the Lord reminds him, “When I say to a wicked man, ‘You will surely die,’ and you do not warn him or speak out to dissuade him from his evil ways in order to save his life, that wicked man will die for his sin, and I will hold you accountable for his sin…” (Ezek. 3:18).
Yes, there is such a thing called “guilty silence”.
(1) A promise is a promise. Jacob promised to return to Bethel and worship God there (28:22). Under what situation did Jacob make his return to honor his promise?
(2) Is there a promise you have made to God that you have yet to honor?
(3) Why would Jacob only ask his sons to get rid of foreign gods at this point and not earlier since he definitely knew all along that they did worship these gods?
(4) Why did it also entail the changing of clothes and the getting rid of earrings? (Exod. 32:2-4)
(5) What was the significance of this action?
(6) How may we follow his example?
(7) How did God honor his action? (in v. 5)
(8) Now, as Jacob obeyed God in returning
and “settling” in Bethel, God appeared to him again, and re-affirmed his covenant
and blessing to him. Note the following things:
a. As much as his name had already been changed to Israel and the place was renamed Bethel, they were both made official and permanent here and so was the blessing.
b. In the blessing, note also the following:
- God addressed Himself.
- Part of the blessing echoed Genesis 1.
- Apart from the coming forth of nations, something else was being mentioned. What was it?
- The gift of land was now reiterated with his return to Bethel. Why?
(9) It is interesting to note that the death of Rebekah was not mentioned, but that of her nurse was. This indicates that Rebekah died without seeing her beloved son. Pause for a moment and reflect on Rebekah. How would you describe her life and her legacy?
(10) What is the main message to you today?
When I thought about Rebekah, it reminded me of many of the older Christian women in the Chinese churches, including my mum. She grew up in a traditional family where her father was both a polygamist and a polytheist. Who knows for how many generations and for how many thousands of years her family had been engaged in ancestral and idol worship. For all practical purposes, she would have no chance of knowing the Lord Jesus Christ. But as a telephone operator in those primitive years of hand-plugged cables, she met my father and married him, a nominal Christian. But she embraced Christianity whole-heartedly and immediately. If it was not the grace of God, how else can one explain her fate?
Rebekah lived in a land of idol worship and her family also worshipped many of the local gods. Her knowledge of Yahweh could not be much; at best this God “El” was one of the many gods the people in Mesopotamia worshipped. But it all changed, when she met the servant of Abraham. She heard his wonderful story of how he was providentially led to her house and how she was chosen as a direct answer to the servant's prayer by the God of Abraham. Then he told the stories of the faith of Abraham, his encounter with God and how he was chosen to be the blessing of all nations. She must have been mesmerized. So, as much as she would miss her family, she immediately agreed to return with this stranger — the servant of Abraham. This, in itself, was an act of faith.
Her faith saw its reward immediately, as she was totally loved by her husband, Isaac, who unlike Abraham, stuck to Rebekah as his only wife — a rarity in those ancient times. As much as Isaac loved Rebekah, their love had to be mutual, because Rebekah became the comfort of Isaac who grieved deeply the loss of his mother.
But what impressed me most was Rebekah’s initiation in inquiring of God because of the jostling of the twins in her womb (Gen. 25:22). When have we read of Isaac, or even Abraham, taking the initiation to inquire of God? In other words, she demonstrated a dynamic relationship with God, not a passive one. No wonder. Although she was barren for the longest time (a good 20 years of waiting), she did not resort to what Sarah did. This, again, was an act of faith.Well, as with anyone, she was not without flaws. Although, Isaac probably was one who played favorites and contributed to the feud between the two sons, Rebekah was the master-mind of Jacob’s deception of her husband — the husband who loved her and remained steadfastly loyal to her till the end. However, how much her faith in the promise of God played in her scheme can never be known. For she knew that “the older will serve the younger.” But I sense that it played an important part in it, although it could not absolve her of her wrong in deceiving Isaac.
Perhaps, it was because of this act of deception that her death is never mentioned in the Bible, except that she was buried alongside her husband together with Abraham and Sarah (Gen. 49:31). It was a fitting tribute to her life of faith.
(1) We have to be moved by the death of Rachel.
a. She eventually got a child and she thanked God for removing her disgrace. She named him Joseph, with the hope of having another child (30:24).
b. Eventually her prayer was answered, only to see herself die at the birth of this child.
c. She expressed her sorrow in naming this child, Ben-Oni (son of my sorrow).
d. Her sorrow figuratively continues even at the birth of Christ (see Matt. 2:18).
e. She remained the true love of Jacob.
Pause for a moment and reflect on her life. How would you describe her life and her legacy?
(2) How did Jacob deal with his grief in re-naming this child, Benjamin (son of my right hand)? Can you name the king and the apostle that came from the tribe of Benjamin? (1 Sam. 10:21; Phil. 3:5)
(3) What happened when they lived in Migdal Eder? How did this incident reveal the general spiritual condition of Jacob’s children?
(4) How did Jacob deal with Reuben?
(5) What should he have done?
(6) Is it fair to say that Jacob contributed to the spiritual condition of his family? Why or why not?
(7) What was the result of the sin of Reuben (here in chapter 35) and that of Simeon and Levi (in chapter 34) in terms of the Abrahamic Covenant?
(8) Finally, Jacob got to see his father, Isaac who lived to see the return of his son and his grandchildren as well. Pause for a moment to reflect on the life of Isaac. How would you describe his life and his legacy?
(9) What then is the essential message of today and how may you apply it in your life?
As we reflect on the life of Isaac, I’ve found the following article very insightful and would like to share it with you:
“Isaac, the gentle and dutiful son, the faithful and constant husband…became the father of a house in which order did not reign. If there were any very prominent points in his character, they were not brought out by the circumstances in which he was placed. He appears less as a man of action than as a man of suffering, from which he is generally delivered without any direct effort of his own. Thus he suffers as the object of Ishmael’s mocking, of the intended sacrifice on Moriah, of the rapacity of the Philistines, and of Jacob's stratagem. But the thought of his sufferings is effaced by the ever-present tokens of God’s favor; and he suffers with the calmness and dignity of a conscious heir of heavenly promises, without uttering any complaint, and generally without committing any action by which he would forfeit respect. Free from violent passions, he was a man of constant, deep, and tender affections. Thus he mourned for his mother till her place was filled by his wife. His sons were nurtured at home till a late period of their lives; and neither his grief for Esau's marriage, nor the anxiety in which he was involved in consequence of Jacob’s deceit, estranged either of them from his affectionate care. His life of solitary blamelessness must have been sustained by strong habitual piety, such as showed itself at the time of Rebekah’s barrenness (Gen. xxv, 21), in his special intercourse with God at Gerar and Beersheba (xxvi, 2, 23), in the solemnity with which he bestows his blessing and refuses to change it. His life, judged by a worldly standard, might seem inactive, ignoble, and unfruitful; but the ‘guileless years, prayers, gracious acts, and daily thank-offerings of pastoral life’ are not to be so esteemed, although they make no show in history. Isaac’s character may not have exercised any commanding influence upon either his own or succeeding generations, but it was sufficiently marked and consistent to win respect and envy from his contemporaries. By his posterity his name is always joined in equal honor with those of Abraham and Jacob, and so it was even used as part of the formula which Egyptian magicians in the time of Origen (Contra Celsum, i, 22) employed as efficacious to bind the demons whom they adjured (comp. Gen. xxxi, 42, 53).
"If Abraham’s enterprising, unsettled life foreshadowed the early history of his descendants; if Jacob was a type of the careful, commercial, unwarlike character of their later days, Isaac may represent the middle period, in which they lived apart from nations, and enjoyed possession of the fertile land of promise.”
(Excerpt from COBTEL, Vol., IV, p. 669)
(1) Apart from giving a historical account of the descendants of Esau (or Edom), what might be the reason that the Bible uses one of the longest chapters in Genesis to detail the non-elect line of Abraham? (Does it have anything to do with what is said in Deut. 23:7?)
There are apparent differences in the names of Esau’s wives from those mentioned in 26:34 and 28:9. Esau might have chosen to rename his wives (to please his father). But these facts remain:
a. God has also blessed him to become a significant people or nation, called the Edomites.
b. God has blessed him with great riches that equaled Jacob’s.
c. However, at the end, he served his brother (as played out in subsequent history).
(2) Presumably, at the time of Jacob’s return, Esau lived in the Promised Land and he also resided in Seir which is further to the south. Now, Jacob returned to his north and gradually grew southward because of his wealth. Some commentators opine that it was an act not by faith but by sight, in that Esau chose to leave the Promised Land, but some see that Esau understood God’s choice of Jacob and voluntarily deferred the right of the promise to his brother. According to what has been said of Esau so far in Genesis, which do you think was the case?
(3) The grandsons of Esau were simply listed first as the “grandsons of Esau’s wife” and then were listed again with a different title. Why does the Bible list them again and yet gives a different, common title to them?
(4) While the Bible sometimes mentions the Edomites affectionately as the brother of Israel, in this genealogy of Esau, there is one grandson whose descendants were such wicked enemies of Israel that God has mandated their annihilation. Which one was it? Whose son was he? (See Exod. 17:16 and 1 Sam. 15:2-3.)
(5) What is the main message to you today and how can you apply it to your life?
As the main characters of the patriarchal families one by one fade into history, Esau, too is being mentioned for one last time in Genesis 36, with an unusually lengthy account of his genealogy. Honestly, I like his character far more than that of Jacob — what a forgiving person! However, we have to look at his life in its totality and I believe Calvin’s comment on his life is quite fair-minded:
“Though Esau was an alien from the Church in the sight of God; yet since he also, as a son of Isaac, was favored with a temporal blessings. Moses celebrates his race, and inscribes a sufficiently lengthened catalogue of the people born from him. This commemoration, however, resembles an honorable sepulture. For although Esau, with is posterity, took the precedence; yet this dignity was like a bubble, which is comprised under the figure of the world, and which quickly perishes. As, therefore, it has been before said of other profane nations, so now Esau is exalted as on a lofty theater. But since there is no permanent condition out of the kingdom of God, the splendor attributed to him is evanescent, and the whole of his pomp departs like the passing scene of the stage. The Holy Spirit designed, indeed, to testify that the prophecy which Isaac uttered concerning Esau was not vain; but he has no sooner shown its effect, than he turns away our eyes, as if he had cast a veil over it, that we may confine our attention to the race of Jacob. Now, though Esau had children by three wives, in whom afterwards the blessing of God shone forth, yet polygamy is not, on that account, approved, nor the impure lust of man excused: but in this the goodness of God is rather to be admired, which, contrary to the order of nature, gave a good issue to evil beginnings.”
(Excerpt from Calvin’s Commentaries, Vol. 1, p. 252)
Interestingly, the Bible also lists the genealogy of the Horites who occupied Seir before Esau moved in. It appears that Esau and his descendants either destroyed or intermarried them and eventually absorbed them and thus Seir became synonymous with Edom. Since this is a genealogy outside of the Abrahamic lineage, may I suggest the following as you read through this passage:
(1) Divide this passage into meaningful sub-divisions.
(2) Give a title to each of your sub-divisions.
(3) How can we tell that the Horites preceded Esau?
(4) In addition to the Horite chiefs, who else are listed in vv. 31-39, and from vv. 40-43?
(5) What does it say about God’s blessing on Esau whose descendants were able to “replace” these powerful Horites?
(6) What is the main message to you today ?
As the
name of Esau was mentioned for the last time in the Book of Genesis, I invite
you to reflect on the fleeting glory of life through Isaac Watts’ wonderful
words about our Eternal God today. This hymn was also sung at the funeral of
Sir Winston Churchill:
O God, Our Help in Ages Past
1
O God, our help in ages past,
our hope for years to come,
our shelter from the stormy blast,
and our eternal home.
2
Under the shadow of thy throne,
still may we dwell secure;
sufficient is thine arm alone,
and our defense is sure.
3
Before the hills in order stood,
or earth received her frame,
from everlasting, thou art God,
to endless years the same.
4
A thousand ages, in thy sight,
are like an evening gone;
short as the watch that ends the night,
before the rising sun.
5
Time, like an ever rolling stream,
bears all who breathe away;
they fly forgotten, as a dream
dies at the opening day.
6
O God, our help in ages past,
our hope for years to come;
be thou our guide while life shall last,
and our eternal home.
(Isaac Watts 1674-1748)